No matter how much you try to "love your faults", we understand that some days you simply can't. Being happy with your body is more difficult than it seems. Women of any age, weight and stature all strive to accept and love themselves every day, no matter how attractive society considers them.
Although it may not seem like it, learning to accept your body and love your body as it is is possible - and you can start with some simple habits.
How to love and accept your body as it is...
Know that you are the only person solely responsible for both caring for and loving yourself just the way you are. And you can start today to treat your body with the affection it deserves.
Accept what you can not change.
There are features of your body that you can not change. You were born with certain height, skin color, bone structure, and the ability to gain or lose weight in certain spots.
Therefore, the first step to building confidence is to accept all that you can not change. If you set your goals for an unattainable beauty standard, you will go mad trying to reach it. Perfectionism is not healthy for your body or your mind: let go of your need to be perfect. No one is and that's okay for everyone.
Work on changing what you can.
There are some features of your body that you can change, for example, lose or gain weight, increase muscle mass, grow your nails or get faux ones, straighten, color, or curl your hair, shape your eyebrows, and other beauty treatments. The key is to focus on one thing at a time and not try to change everything at once.
One of the biggest obstacles to changing something in our bodies is our own negativity. But working on your body out of love instead of hate will give you the motivation you need to move forward.
A vicious circle of negative thoughts change prevent people from setting health goals or changing their image. The Positive Psychology Program site illustrates the example of overweight people: they first gain weight and feel bad for having gained it. And while initially they may try to lose weight and achieve a goal, but they may become frustrated and start using food or inactivity to feel better - and as a result, they gain more weight and feel worse. By loving your body, you will try to change it to improve your health because you care about yourself. As a result, you will achieve your physical goals more easily and will be more likely to make them permanent.
It is important to remember that your body is constantly changing over the years. Your metabolism, your ability to gain or lose weight and the quality of your skin change over the years. The physical experiences you go through (such as a pregnancy) will also alter your body. The changes you make now will not last forever - throughout your life you will be in perpetual transformation, so it is important to practice positive thinking about your body in any condition.
Take care of yourself.
This point comes hand in hand with the previous one: people who are happy with their bodies are more motivated to take care of them. They have good hygiene, drink plenty of water, apply moisturizers and skin cream, take care of their hair, eat healthy (as much as possible), try to sleep well - they do what their bodies need to be healthy.
What works for others may not be for you. Keep in mind that you have to find what you personally like to do to take care of yourself. It can be as easy as being alone for a while, reading in bed or watching your favorite movie. It may be taking a relaxing bath or getting a massage. Respect your body the way it feels most natural to you.
Do not believe what the media says.
The media is not as positive with the body as you think; for example, even plus size models seem to have a perfectly flat (and obviously retouched) stomach. This doesn't only occur in Hollywood. Instagram models, Facebook users, and people on other social networks can and do use technology to retouch photos and videos. Sometimes it's not even the technology - many women use corsets, padding, and waist trainers to show off the parts of their body they want to highlight. Or even just use strategic angles for their pictures. And yes, many celebrities (and non-celebrities) undergo plastic surgery.
In an Australian study, the use of Instagram was controlled, showing 138 women only images of celebrities, conventionally beautiful women, or landscapes. It turned out that their moods were much more negative after seeing the images of other women, whether they were famous or not.
You do not have to stop using social networks. But it is important to find representation in the media. If the models do not represent you, follow other people. If you want to admire others to set goals, follow models that are not an unattainable ideal. There are models of all sizes, and not all have a flat stomach.
It is in our human nature to both compare ourselves and have aspirations for the future, but try to keep these impulses at a realistic level.
Process opinions constructively.
Many times we hear negative opinions about our bodies. When you are overweight, it is common to hear from insults to well intentioned comments about your health, which you probably did not ask for anyway. Remember that anyone can comment on your weight - and it can hurt whether the comments come from complete strangers or your closest family. You can not change the way other people behave or think, but you can change the way you process their words.
In an article she wrote for Healthline, Natalie Johnson, founder of the blog Shameless Creature, explains her tactics to deal with criticism of her weight. "When a stranger's words hurt me, I think: "What does your opinion mean to me? Where does this comment really come from? " Sometimes people insult others because they feel insecure about themselves, or because they simply do not understand another person's point of view."
When faced with a negative opinion about your appearance, ask yourself if it really has any foundation. If you think it does, would you be willing to change that about yourself? Do you have the will to do it? What would be your first steps to work on changing it? Use a journal to record your progress.
Sometimes criticism comes from ourselves. We've all spent hours and hours looking at each other, but no one else has the time to look at you so closely (and if you have it you probably do not care about your little details). "When you look at something for so long, you'll obviously find fault with it," Johnson explains. We can never be perfect in the eyes of others, but we can be perfect for ourselves."